Friday, May 29, 2020

Open Adoption

mock faithCatholic Social Services began practicing open adoption many years ago because we believe it to be in the best interest for the child.  Like Jim Gritter, author of Hospitious Adoption, we believe open adoption to be about human decency, simple grace, and respect for all parties involved.   “If we wish to make a difference, we respond to all of those involved in adoption with small acts of courageous respect,  “asserts Gritter; this concept of grace and respect is the basis and the roadway to open adoption.
Our years of experience with open adoption have helped us to refine the process, balance the needs of everyone involved and provide  support necessary for healthy relationships. Through free and confidential counseling, CSSM social workers assist expectant parents  in deciding what is in the best interests of themselves and their child. For many this means making an adoption plan.
During the adoption planning process, social workers support by:

  • Arrange for the expectant parents to choose and meet the adoptive family
  • Assist in facilitating the exchange of names and addresses
  • Help the families plan for a continuing relationship
    • Which may include the exchange to letters, photographs, and visits
  • Aid the families in creating and maintain a healthy relationship with realistic boundaries and expectations.

Common Open Adoption Myths

Why Open Adoption?

rossmiller_02CSSM strives to support all members of the adoption constellation (expectant parents, extended expectant family, adoptive parents, and child),  but our goal is always to first consider the child. We firmly believe in child-centered child-centered adoption for the well-being of the child.  We believe that the child should have as complete a medical and social background history as possible, know the circumstances around the adoption plan,  and have the opportunity to know his or her birthfamily from the very start.
Research continues to show that children who have information and access to someone in their birth family tend to have better self-esteem and confidence,  because they know their roots. They don’t have to wonder, because the pieces to the puzzle of their adoption plan are shared with them,  age appropriately, as they grow and mature. The research also shows that children who have access to birth parents  feel most comfortable about being adopted.
“We should not be asking who does this child belong to, but who belongs to this child.” ~Jim Gritter, Hospitious Adoption